of men and frens
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just read mama's post and yihan's post.. ermm hope she doesnt mind me reading without leaving a note to say i read... hmm anyway this thing has went thru my mind before... whether ppl get into cliques which ultimately causes some disruption in unity and welcome-ness amongst others..
well i wld be kidding u if i say it's totally harmless to form cliques cause we all knw how exclusive things can become but wat i have realised aft all these years is tt if you form cliques and stick to them like you will die without them, you will end up w a rather fragmented class with ppl doing their own stuff with their circle of frens, while those who dun actively look for frens just drown by themselves...
but consider the other side of the coin - we all form our own cliques and then we draw closer to these 'selected' ppl but at the same time, we dun deny ourselves the chance to make new frens and reach out to other ppl.. the cliques are then non-exclusive which accept others into them, somewat like a kind of family whr we all feel comfortable whether we are by ourselves, or even when thr is someone else around..
well you may say tt the second situation is ideal and tt i am blasting some kind of philosophy but i knw i am not coz the first side of the issue i presented to u sums up my sec sch days while the latter spks volumes abt my JC life... i have seen the immense disruptive potential of cliques while at the same time, have understood the unifying quality cliques can bring to us.. it just depends on how we behave in the clique and how everyth goes..
for me, in church i have to admit tt last time i was vvvvv clique-ish and stuck to my clique like i will die without them but for now, i am more able [i cant say i am vv pro at this] to leave the clique [as seen from my frequent disappearance from either my class or iloveeggfamily on sundays] to go tok to the younger ones like yiihang, kenneth, liuqi or the older ones like yongsing, shijia... yeahh i am not a superman or superhero so i will be kidding u again if i say i wanna befren the whole world and make everyone feel at home.. but at least, i knw i dun stick to my cliques like hell will befall me if otherwise and i still try, albeit sometimes less successful, to tok to others i seldom tok to..
ahh sorry if the above sound vaguely politically correct or somewat sermon-ish or a lil' too pre-prepared but hey, i've thot thru this stuff before and the above is just my summary/conclusion for everyth ba.. duno wat's u guys take on tt tho :)
PS: yihan's post has quite a few of suggestions which i agree to but haha, wun reply to all those here lah =)
thanx mama for bringing this up anyway!! haven seen you around for SUPER LONG arh... *glares* haha :P and dun scold harry potter like tt!! cannot teach innocent us the wrong things :P
just read mama's post and yihan's post.. ermm hope she doesnt mind me reading without leaving a note to say i read... hmm anyway this thing has went thru my mind before... whether ppl get into cliques which ultimately causes some disruption in unity and welcome-ness amongst others..
well i wld be kidding u if i say it's totally harmless to form cliques cause we all knw how exclusive things can become but wat i have realised aft all these years is tt if you form cliques and stick to them like you will die without them, you will end up w a rather fragmented class with ppl doing their own stuff with their circle of frens, while those who dun actively look for frens just drown by themselves...
but consider the other side of the coin - we all form our own cliques and then we draw closer to these 'selected' ppl but at the same time, we dun deny ourselves the chance to make new frens and reach out to other ppl.. the cliques are then non-exclusive which accept others into them, somewat like a kind of family whr we all feel comfortable whether we are by ourselves, or even when thr is someone else around..
well you may say tt the second situation is ideal and tt i am blasting some kind of philosophy but i knw i am not coz the first side of the issue i presented to u sums up my sec sch days while the latter spks volumes abt my JC life... i have seen the immense disruptive potential of cliques while at the same time, have understood the unifying quality cliques can bring to us.. it just depends on how we behave in the clique and how everyth goes..
for me, in church i have to admit tt last time i was vvvvv clique-ish and stuck to my clique like i will die without them but for now, i am more able [i cant say i am vv pro at this] to leave the clique [as seen from my frequent disappearance from either my class or iloveeggfamily on sundays] to go tok to the younger ones like yiihang, kenneth, liuqi or the older ones like yongsing, shijia... yeahh i am not a superman or superhero so i will be kidding u again if i say i wanna befren the whole world and make everyone feel at home.. but at least, i knw i dun stick to my cliques like hell will befall me if otherwise and i still try, albeit sometimes less successful, to tok to others i seldom tok to..
ahh sorry if the above sound vaguely politically correct or somewat sermon-ish or a lil' too pre-prepared but hey, i've thot thru this stuff before and the above is just my summary/conclusion for everyth ba.. duno wat's u guys take on tt tho :)
PS: yihan's post has quite a few of suggestions which i agree to but haha, wun reply to all those here lah =)
thanx mama for bringing this up anyway!! haven seen you around for SUPER LONG arh... *glares* haha :P and dun scold harry potter like tt!! cannot teach innocent us the wrong things :P
Edmund
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11:49 AM